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What You Need to Know About The 30 Day No-Contact Rule

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What You Need to Know About The 30 Day No-Contact Rule

Still texting your ex? Or maybe you can't stop checking in on that crush via social media. Ooo, tough, I know. When that one person's on your mind, you can become obsessed. It happens to everyone. When you fall for someone, your body gets used to those feelings of love and excitement so breakups or accepting the fact that they aren't that into you can be hard no matter who you are!

Enter, The No-Contact Rule. Maybe you've heard of it, or maybe you're just learning about it. Either way, this is the rule that's about to change the game. To be more specific, the No Contact rule is where you don’t call, text, or message an ex in any way after the breakup. It includes not talking to their friends or family about them or the breakup itself.

Some dating and relationship experts believe that waiting those thirty days after a breakup will bring your ex back. I don't believe the hype. I think it's more useful to get your mind off of that specific person. Instead of harping on the fact that you haven't heard from them, take those thirty days for yourself. Start a new workout regime, take up a new hobby or throw yourself into the business. I know your hurting, but you need time for yourself. Process what's going on within yourself and what happened in the relationship. It's a unique time where you can find out more about yourself!

If you're looking to get your ex back, even after you've taken the time to evaluate your relationship, then here's what you have to do. Continue the no contact rule even after the 30 days. The 30 days are really a primer to help you get through. If after that month, they still don't contact you then they probably don't want to hear from you. You're going to have to wait it out a little longer but sooner or later, they'll be wondering where you went and don't be surprised when you get a message!

What do you think about the 30-day No Contact Rule? Let me know in the comments or tweet me @lorenridinger.