Dating can be complicated, especially if you’re dating an introvert. We’re conditioned to believe that a partner shows their level of love and commitment to you via the way they communicate with you, and how often they want to spend time with you. So, dating an introvert will likely feel amazingly lonely at times. Many may question how it’s even possible for a relationship to flourish when one party prefers to spend their time alone. But, where there’s a will, true love always finds a way! Here’s how to date an introvert who doesn’t want to spend time with you.
How to Date an Introvert Who Doesn’t Want to Spend Time with You
#1. Respect your introverts needs, but don’t forget yours.
Dating an introvert requires understanding their need for solitude. But his or her need for alone time isn’t an excuse to show no regard for your needs. All relationships require compromise, and it can’t be about one person all the time. It’s not OK to claim to be in a relationship with you but fail to make an effort to spend time with you for weeks at a time. That’s not introvertism, that’s something else at play.
#2. Approach problems with caution.
If you communicate feelings of hurt or anger to an introvert due to their behaviors, they can often take hours or days to respond, hoping that ignoring your issues will sweep your problems under the rug. It doesn’t. Ghosting a loved one when they’re opening up about their feelings can make them feel them feel rejected and unloved. Introverts tend to respond better to calm conversations face-to-face rather than paragraphs of angry messages. If they need to digest your words before responding, it’s their responsibility to come back to you with a response when they’re ready to reply. It’s called adulting.
#3. Are you struggling with an introvert issue or a behavior issue?
A partner who never considers your needs before their own isn’t an introvert problem, it’s a relationship issue. If you’re consistently telling your partner how unhappy it makes you feel that they never make an effort to spend time with you and they make no attempt to compromise or be more considerate to your needs, it’s a problem with them as a human being, not as an introvert. Introvertism isn’t an excuse to show a complete lack of regard for other peoples’ feelings, especially those of a partner.
#4. Know the red flags.
If your introvert is refusing to spend time with you for weeks at a time, ghosts you, shuts down on you emotionally regularly or you find yourself begging for their attention, consider letting the relationship go. No one should be made to feel constantly rejected and unloved by the person who claims to love them.
#5. Don’t try and change them.
Compromise is a must in any strong relationship, but never try and change an introvert. Understand what their triggers are. If, for example, they become highly agitated in large crowds of people, don’t try and force them to accompany you to such events. Compromise. Attend smaller social gatherings together instead.
#6. Make time for quality time.
Spending quality time together is a necessity for any relationship to work. Find things you both love doing together, and make these moments your quality time.