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A 6-Point “Stop Doing” and Permission List for Your Life and Work

April 6th, 2013

Guest blogger: Tamisha Ford |

Sometimes when we’re on our hustle and grind, it’s nice to come across a post that completely empowers you and helps you get over the hump you might be facing.  I’m hoping this post can be one of those for you today.  Consider this tough love to help you stop doing the things that aren’t serving you or your life’s work, and permission to do what is.


6 Things You Could Stop Doing Today to Change the Game in Your Life and Work

  1. 1. Looking for blanket approval on your ideas.  You know not everyone is going to like you, what you do or how you do it, so why keep the pressure on yourself to keep looking for it?  I promise when you stop doing this, your creativity will increase and you’ll feel so much better about the value you are providing.  Permission to allow the people who love you and your ideas to love you and your ideas.
  2. 2. Serving everyone in your business.  Even the biggest brands in existence, like Nike, Skinnygirl or Virgin don’t serve ALL people.  Permission to serve your Best People with heart and conviction is granted.  If you’re trying to serve the entire universe with one idea or business, you’re thinking backwards.  I know it seems counter-intuitive, but if you can serve one person at a time, your business will explode.  When you master dealing with one person, the masses eventually come.
  3. 3. Thinking you can’t be successful in your marketing.  You can be.  If you’re committed to your business and the ultimate freedom and feeling you’re after, you will make your marketing happen.  You’ll do it because you are persistent, a lifelong learner, and you’ll seek it out, and learn all you can about it.  You won’t make excuses and you’ll be open to help.  You’ll see your marketing as human to human, heart to heart, soul to soul, value to value, and life to life.  Permission to find the spiritual power in your marketing.
  4. 4. Wishing your business looked like “so-and-so’s”.  I can’t tell you how many entrepreneurs make this mistake.  I did early in my career.  You see another successful person and want to try doing exactly what they’re doing.  The problem is – it’s not possible.  There is way more to their business than you see, trust me.  There can also be way more to your business.  Permission to innovate.
  5. 5. Wanting to be ‘liked’ by everyone.  We all want to be liked.  It feels good to be liked, supported, and validated in our ideas, our work, and our pursuits.  However, look for this within, and then learn to accept anything else that adds to that.  Let everything else go.  This sort of goes with #1, but this one is more about your personality and you as a person.  Everyone isn’t going to like you, and that’s okay!  Permission to be dis-liked.  Permission to be respected.
  6. 6. Visiting that same old website every week, then trying to match it.  It’s an unhealthy connection.  You wouldn’t go to someone’s house every single week then go home and decorate your house exactly like theirs – your website, wardrobe, and work should be no different.  Own your own space – there’s nothing wrong with being inspired, but there’s a fine line between inspiration and imitation, and people will feel it.  There’s more to an online business than you’ll EVER see – web real estate is just the front end.  Permission to hire a designer or refer to #4.

What else can you commit to stop doing this week to help someone else?  What would you like to give someone else OR yourself permission to do, once and for all?  Share below…

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